The early 2000's were an extraordinary period for the LGBT (Lesbian,
Gay, Bi-sexual and Transgender) community. After decades of apparently
fruitless campaigning, the walls suddenly fell, and politicians and big
corporates began to compete to prove their LGBT friendly
credentials at Pride and Awareness events.
We moved in to a world where it was accepted that woman can be
genetically XY, and men genetically XX.
I find particularly worrying
indications that teenage children are seeking to change their gender
just because their friends are. Social media sites are a massive
influence on teenagers and encourage a bandwagon effect when popular
infuencers transition, whilst the mission of leading trans charities in
the UK such as Stonewall and Mermaids leads them to encourage and
support young children in changing their gender without questioning if
this is necessary and in the best interests of the child. Even worse, the NHS in
the UK has been overwhelmed by the number of children who now apparently
suffer from gender identification disorders (GID), and as result it's providing
irreversible
"gender
confirmation" treatments and surgery to teenage children with minimal assessment. I
fear that there will be huge backlash by the end of 2020's, with
thousands of young transmen and transwomen (it's rarely recognised that the former outnumber
the later) bitterly regretting their poorly advised decisions as a
teenager.
Confusion of Gender and Physical Sex
Despite all the positive developments, huge problem remains in the
wide-spread assumption that gender and sex are
the same when in fact they are very different. Gender is a mental
and lifestyle attribute), whilst is sex is a physical attribute which
includes genes, sexual intercourse and reproduction. In the UK, the ignorance of Civil Servants and Members
of Parliament about the difference between sex and gender resulted in
the passing into law of the Gender Recognition Act 2004
(GRA2004). This inaccurately confuses sex as being synonymous with
gender.
In
2016 it was announced that GRA2004 would be reviewed after a
campaign for a 'simplified' Gender Recognition procedure where
the applicant could
self-declare their gender
with no medical assessment required, and that this declaration will be
legally binding. An amendment to the Act was expected to be passed
allowing this in 2019, but other UK government priorities such as Brexit
and then Covid-19 delayed the legislation, and it was eventually dropped.
However, the Scottish Parliament, which
has extensive devolved powers, has
continued to pursue the self-declaration route, for example the 2022
census will in Scotland allow anyone to self-declare their sex -
regardless of what official documents such as their Birth Certificate or
Passport may state.
Implementation of the GRA2004
has become a triumph of the views of a small but very
vocal trans-lobby. The rights, safety and best interests of women
with a vagina (yes, I'm including constructed neo-vagina's) are
subordinated to anyone with a penis who can coherently fill in a form. Possession of a GRC permits the holder to be considered female for all legal
purposes, whilst often still
physically a fertile male with a fully functional penis.
One (and not unique) appalling example of the
consequences of this is the case of David Thompson.
Whilst on remand for grievous bodily harm, burglary, multiple rapes, and
other sexual offences against women - David applied for and obtained
a female GRC as Karen White, age 52. When subsequently convicted
as a male paedophile who had sexually abused young girls, her GRC meant that 'she' was sent to a women-only prison
- despite
having had no genital surgery or even any hormone treatment. Within
a few weeks
Karen had raped or sexually assaulted four fellow prisoners. As a
result, Leeds Crown Court described Karen as being a "predator who was a
danger to women and children". However, whilst Karen had been
temporarily relocated to a male-only prison, the court couldn't order
this to be made permanent as she was legally female! Another example of the problems granting a GRC to a
physical male is the case of
Dr Upton.
Born in Scotland in 1995 as Theodore Upton, his Birth Certificate stated
that he was 'Male'.
He subsequently qualified as a medical doctor. In
January 2022
he obtained a GRS and in August 2022
transitioned, adopting the female forename 'Beth'.
After re-registering under her new name, Dr Beth Upton
began working as a doctor in August 2023 at the Victoria Hospital in
Kirkcaldy, Fife, where
she was given permission to use the hospitals female-only
facilities despite still possessing a penis.
A nurse, Sandie Peggie, was dealing with her menstrual flow in a female
changing room when Beth entered the room and supposedly undressed in front
of her. Sandie was very uncomfortable about this experience, being
"embarrassed and intimidated" and when
they were subsequently both in a changing room
confronted Beth about being a man. This led to Dr Upton making a
formal complaint about Ms Peggie, claiming that she had said "deeply
upsetting and hurtful things ... I felt unsafe". The nurse was
suspended from work and investigated for bullying. Sandie countered
by taking the hospital to an employment tribunal in early 2025, she claimed sexual harassment under Equality Act,
indirect discrimination and victimisation by her employer and a male
doctor; whilst Beth responded that she was actually the one who had been
harassed - "my identity is female". In the end the court cleared
Ms Peggie of any
misconduct against Dr Upton. Essentially no one emerged from the
case as a winner.
However, I found it interesting that the UK newspapers adopted a
far more evenly balanced tone about the Beth Upton case than they did with other
complaints against pre-surgery transwomen, such as
Isla Bryson and Karen White.
The vast difference in the severity of their supposed crimes is hopefully
the predominant factor, but I suspect that 29-year-old Beth also
benefited from presenting as a normal and
reasonably attractive woman. In court she was at no
great disadvantage in appearance and demeanor from the 50-year-old nurse.
Concersely, Isla and Karen were more like "Ugly Sister" drag artists with
obvious wigs and OTT make-up.
The Law is an Ass
An extraordinary recent development in the UK is that if a pre-surgery transwoman
gains a GRC
and becomes legally a woman, she can't then have gender confirmation
surgery. This would technically constitute the genital mutilation of
a female, which the College of Policing
advises is illegal in the UK.
Being positive, GRA2004 has helped to legalise thousands of marriages in the UK between a man and a transwoman. For this, both partners must complete a statutory declaration for submission to the Gender Recognition Panel. Whilst the vast majority of husbands are aware that their wife is transgender (or vice versa), there are a small number of instances where she has successfully been in deep stealth and this is a huge surprise, and a source of magazine articles!
Great Beauty = Woman?
As an experiment, in early 2025 I conducted a [safe] search of
the Internet using just the term "beautiful women". The
first image (right) that was suggested by Google - labelled a "Beautiful
emotional woman with natural make-up" - was a photo of top female
model Valentina Sampaio, who happens to be a transwoman. Another
early suggestion was Alex Consani, who had just been voted Female
Model of the Year 2024. Other transgender models followed in
quick succession: Lea T, Katy Gramma, Ariel Nicholson, Siri Lehland, Teddy Quinlivan, Andreja Pejic and
more. In
only a few instances was it quickly evident that the beautiful
woman was transgender, generally
further research was needed to reveal that.
This simple test confirmed the extent to which since c.2015 the $1 trillion per year women's beauty and fashion sector accepts and perhaps even now encourages (potentially somewhat worryingly) young transgirls and androgenous boys to become female models. It also left me wondering how many other of the 'beautiful' models in the search results were stealth transwomen.
The same is happening in the screen sector.
Until
c.2015 transgender
actress such as Laverne Cox, Trace Lysette, Candis Cayne, Talisa Garcia, and Jamie Clayton
were almost entirely playing transgender characters. Today, the next
generation of young trans actresses
such as Alexandra Grey, Hunter Schafer, Hari Nef, Andreja Pejic, Victoria Bazau, Nicole Maines, Zion
Moreno and Josie Tatoh are increasingly appearing in cis-women roles -
although with surprising frequency they turn to be lesbian!
Similarly, all the
"Big 4" beauty pageant contests now accept openly
transgender women
as contestants - reducing the rumours often
circulated about which participants were transsexual. Transwomen are
also starting to win an ever-larger
number of competitions at a national level, for example Angela Ponce (Miss Spain),
Rikkie Kolle (Miss Netherlands) and Marina Machete (Miss Portugal).
Inevitability one will soon win the overall contest and become
Miss World / Universe / International / Earth. Historically, physical beauty has always been a key measurement for identifying women. If young transwomen are now setting the standard, does that mean they are women and it is cis-women that are struggling to make the grade? From an evolutionary and 'survival of the fittest' perspective, the whole point of being a beautiful woman is to appear fertile and attract and mate with a high-status man who can then support both her and her children. Of course, transwomen can't currently bear children and it seems unlikely that it will become a commonplace and affordable medical procedure in the near future. Far more probable is that an increasing number of rich men will have a stealth transwoman as their trophy wife and public eye candy, whilst in the background a cis-woman is being well paid to secretly act as a surrogate mother for his children.
Problems The pendulum swung extraordinary quickly and by 2020 it had become almost mandatory for “progressive” politicians, sports administrators, charities, et al, to advocate the rights of transgender women. Indeed it now seemed that the rights and interests of self-declared transgender women were more important than those of cis-women.
I was depressed but not
surprised about the ever increasing number of cis-women complaining about
the often scary prevalence of
transwomen
who had often not had GCS, or indeed any medical treatment. For
example:
Other issues in the UK include:
the NHS's National Menopause People Policy Framework claiming "It is important to note that not everyone who experiences menopause is a woman." parents discovering from schools (e.g. at parent meetings when their son is unexpectedly referred to as "she" by teachers) that their child has asked to change their gender, and they legally can't prevent this! I'm going to be controversial by stating that I consider some of the complaints to be valid as I've been personally affected by the increasing backlash against transwomen because a few men (I can't find an alternative word) and "trans activists" have abused the rights that it took decades for us to win. Although "trans" I found extraordinary the belief by
“progressive” politicians, sports administrators,
charities, et al, that the rights and interests of a few thousand self-declared
transgender women were more important than those of millions of cis-women.
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Extreme and polarised views are now dominating the transgender agenda in the UK and in other western countries.
For example, a lesbian woman (normally the good person in WOKE thinking) who refused to have sex
with a self-labelled lesbian transwoman who had not had "bottom surgery" and obviously had a functional penis was damned on social media as being 'transphobic'.
Supposed transphobic behaviour (e.g. posting a comment on Twitter that a
post-GCS neovagina "goes nowhere" - which is physically true) has become so unacceptable in
the UK that it can
lead
to a visit by the police, with a formal warning issued that "whilst a
criminal offence has not been committed, you now have civil offence
record for a hate incident". Thousands of UK companies, schools and public sector bodies
thus now subscribe to schemes run by the LGBTQ charity Stonewall,
which is largely
taxpayer funded. It's unclear why Stonewall qualifies
as being a charity as
when it appointed a new CEO in May 2020, her
salary was more than
the £160,000 paid to the UK's Prime Minister! Stonewall
advice participating organisations to avoid the use of the words
"mother" and "father" (instead suggesting "parent who has/has not given
birth"); "boy" and "girl" (instead use terms such as "learner"); and
"he" and "she" (use "they").
As a result, for example, the NHS Scotland has been removing these
offensive words from all of its publications, forms, leaflets and
websites.
Compliance with Stonewall's guidance will gain Bronze, Silver and Gold awards.
I find it impossible to defend this situation - it's a modern
incarnation of the Thought Police in George Orwell's novel 1984.
If
the recommendations of Stonewall and similar organisations are followed, the resulting genderless
society seems akin to a science fiction book - and certainly does
nothing to advance women rights. Indeed, women's rights are
becoming subsumed into the rights of transwoman, even if the later have
had no medical treatment.
A
scene in the 1986 movie the
Life of Brian lampoons the current situation with surprising
accuracy: There has since been huge pressure to delete this scene from both the movie and a prospective stage show because it might offend some people.
In October 2021 the European Commission published communication guidelines which attempted to ban gender specific words and phrases such as "man-made" and "ladies and gentlemen" and replace them with neutral phrases like "human-induced" and "dear colleagues". This was withdrawn a month later with the official reason that it was not "a mature document and more work was required". An alternative reason provided is that examples were in English but the French language categorises every noun as masculine or feminine - France is strongly advocating that French should replace English as the primary working language of the EU post-Brexit.
A Moment of Sanity? T Examples of where restrictions would be applicable include:
In July 2024 the EHRC tried to clarify its guidance by stating that if an employer wanted to advertise for a woman-only job, that must only mean biological women or those who have received a gender-recognition certificate (GRC). Unfortunately it is very easy to obtain a GCS and no evidence of medical treatment such as hormones or surgery is required.
Woman or Transwomen? A massive challenge that is never addressed by lawyers or trans advocates is the physical reality that there is a huge difference between transwomen, for example: Example 1 . (Left) A 20-year-old who is 160 cm tall (5ft 3in), weighs 48kg (106lbs), transitioned and began hormones age 17 under supervision after a medical assessment, had GCS age 19 and identifies as a heterosexual woman attracted to men. However, her USA passport still states that he is "Male".Example 2. (Left) A 58-year-old who is 185 cm tall (6ft 1in), weighs 102kg (223lbs), and transitioned age 56 without any medical supervision and doesn't take hormones consistently. He is pre-GCS but identifies as a lesbian attracted to women. He has obtained a UK Gender Recognition Certificate and her passport now states that she is "Female".
Example 3 . (Right) A 25-year old who transitioned after taking estrogen hormones and facial feminisation surgery. She then began a successful career as a model and appeared in Nike adverts promoting their sports bras. But he is legally a man, has not had GCS, and is still attracted to women. Sadly, we are in a situation where there is a huge subjective element. Not accepting example 1 as a woman seems unfair but conversely accepting example 2 as a woman raises many problems - from women's toilets to women's sports to women's hospital wards. As for example 3, from her apperance and life style it initially seems compelling that she should be treated as a woman, but what happens if a CIS-woman claims to have been raped by her? Applying a law where just completing a form makes an adult man legally a "woman" not only doesn't work, but it can dangerously abuse the rights of other women. Impact on ChildrenPersonally, I'm very concerned about the impact that saturation trans-advocacy on social media is having on children. In 2000 I was a strong supporter of the earliest possible medical treatment of children with GID. But that was when just 1 in 4000 of UK children (the majority male to female) under 18 were being reported as having GID, in 2020 the number astonishingly reached over 2 in 100, with 76% female to male! Something has surely gone badly wrong when so many teenagers, particularly girls, are questioning their gender. The increasing number de-transitioners in their twenties - who have often had irreversible and ironically named "gender confirmation surgery" - need to be listened to.
We seem to be reaching a once Science Fiction like scenario where every child can decide if they want to be male, female or something else - both legally and in their secondary sexual characteristics (i.e. external physical appearance). As a society, we need to consider carefully the implications of giving children that choice, a choice which that they may later bitterly regret. In my own (medically unqualified) experience there's a small proportion of transgender children who after expert medical assessment should be given pro-active medical assistance (including blockers, hormones and surgery) at the earliest possible age. But there's also a greater number where it would be best not to intervene medically - even if that meant them passing through puberty. Unfortunately, there are a substantial number of children in the middle that require the "Wisdom of Solomon" to assess correctly. Earthquake in the UKAs
described on this website, for good or bad, trans activists have been on
a winning roll throughout the early 2000's, with high watermark arguably
being the introduction of laws in some countries that allow anyone to
designate their preferred gender and legal sex. In the UK the Gender Recognition Act 2004 (GRA2004) the subsequent anti-discrimination Equality Act 2010 were soon being abused by a small number of opportunists, criminals, rapists and other sex offenders, and what I can only call perverts. They used these to obtain a Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC) stating that they were "Female", despite having zero medical treatment, still living as a man, and possessing a fully functional penis. Their possession of a female GRC gave them access to women's toilets, changing rooms, jails, hospital wards, sports, jobs, and social welfare benefits. This led to extraordinary situations such as a transwoman (Mridul Wadhwawith) who had had no medical treatment and was physically completely male being appointed as CEO of the Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre. Three years later - after numerous complaints, a critical tribunal ruling and an investigation by Rape Crisis Scotland - he/she was finally sacked for "inappropriate behaviour" and a failure to protect "female only" spaces. Headlines were also made when in April 2025 two players (Harriet Haynes and Lucy Smith) with female GRCs contested the final of the UK Women’s Pool Championship Final. In Scotland, the SNP Government took the view (like many other bodies to be fair) that the definition of a "woman" now included transwomen with a gender recognition certificate (GRC). However, the feminist campaign group For Women Scotland (FWS) bought a case to the UK Supreme Court, asking whether transgender people are actually legally a woman or man based on their preferred gender. To widespread shock, on 16 April 2025 the five judges unanimously ruled "that the terms woman and sex in the Equality Act 2010 refer to a biological woman and biological sex".
It is going to take months, if not years - and probably more legal cases - for it become clear what the means in practice. However in the short term, the reality is that in the UK transwoman are suddenly no longer being accepted and treated as equivalent to ciswomen by employers, recreation centres, gymns, medical centres, sports clubs, et al. Even worse, in a throw back to the 1990's, the boyfriends and husbands of transwomen are again often being called out as being gay (aka homosexual). Before 2004 it was the ambition of most passable British transwomen to go deep stealth as a woman with no evidence left that they were ever a "man" - very difficult though it was to achieve. Sadly, 20 years later, that is again becoming the ideal. My Experience Since 2020 the term Sex-Reassignment Surgery (SRS) has largely been replaced by the term Gender Confirmation Surgery (GCS). I prefer the later term as SRS didn't change my physical sex - I'm still genetically 'XY' so it just seems a better fit.
After several difficult years in my late 20's I reluctantly accepted for reasons that I can never adequately explain that I needed to live my life as a woman. An odd starting point is that when my sister had rhinoplasty to improve the appearance of her "family" nose, I accompanied her and had the same procedure. I began taking female hormones (oestrogen) age 30 when living outside the UK. About a month later I was briefly back in the UK and being optimistic about my breast development visited Marks & Spencers to buy my first bra's. When I entered the female lingerie section a female shop assistant quickly rushed over to ask "Can I help you Sir". Highly embarrased, I mumbled some excuse about a present for a girlfriend and exited. Thirty years later, M&S now employ transwoman to help teenage cis-girls pick their first bra! In the late 1990's I increasingly went out in public as a woman, and finally transitioned in December 2000, age 35.
I finally crossed the Rubicon when two years of hard-won experience living as a woman were combined with having an orchiectomy and breast augmentation. By late 2002 I was finally passing successfully as a woman physically and socially, but the financial cost was enormous, the bills got ever larger whilst my take-home pay had dropped to about a third of that pre-transition. In late 2004 I had GCS, and just a few weeks later I married (in a church - anything else would have felt wrong) my long-time boyfriend. Legally our marriage was initially in a rather grey area as whilst I had managed to change my passport to "F", my Birth Certificate was still "M", and it was several months before my vagina healed sufficiently for us to consummate the marriage. Thankfully changes to the law in first the UK (2004 and 2010) and later Ireland (2015) resolved any potential problems, and there is now no doubt over the legal validity of my marriage. However, being legally a wife doesn't necessarily mean that my physical "sex" is female - indeed I'm dubious that this is reasonable or factually correct. When we married I was still in my 30's and just young enough to have children. I was immediately being asked if we had plans to start a family, often with a hint that my biological was ticking. To my amazement, within a few more months I was being asked outright if I was pregnant! It being impossible for me to get pregnant, my answers were always evasive or along the lines that I hadn't been exercising enough and had gained some weight. However - for good or bad - I would have liked to have experienced periods, pregnancy and childbirth, it's a gaping hole in my life that makes it hard to consider myself to be physically female. Hpowever, I'm registered with the Health Service in Ireland as
"Female". Given my increasingly mature age, I regularly
need intimate medical examinations and tests - which can be a cause of
confusion. I haven't found the mammograms offered to me every
two years since I reached 50 to be a problem, I inform the staff that I
have breast implants and have [so far] always received an all clear letter
a few weeks later. However, it's not always so easy. After several
letters asking me to attend a cervical
cancer screening for a PAP test, I eventually complied after discovering
that there was a small possibility
that my neo-vagina (constructed from penile skin) can contract
this. But my visit resulted in a confused nurse, a very
puzzled doctor, and having to out myself as trans MTF.
A particular hate that I have is the advent of gender-neutral toilets, these basically allow an establishment to advertise their WOKE credentials whilst saving money by having just one rather than two sets of toilets. I had a horrible experience queuing in a gender-neutral toilet to use the only cubicle, whilst a steady stream of men used (with varying degrees of embarrassment) the urinals.
In another example, I swim at a local pool during a women-only session as the time is
ideal for me, but I now must sign for entry a form whose small print now
oddly includes "people who are not having menstrual periods can be
excluded". As an alternative I tried another
swimming
pool and spotted a notice advising swimmers to "Use the
Changing Room (Male or Female) you are most comfortable with".
This means that I could potentially be sharing the Female changing room with physically complete and sexually fully functional
males. It seems to be a victory for a tiny number of
transactivists (often pre-GCS/SRS) over several thousand times more
cis-women.
Even outside a women's changing room or toilets', I've met some very scary (both physically and behaviourally)
individuals whom I've struggled to accept as being women.
I was astonished in a meeting to hear a very large and masculine looking transgender activist proclaiming as
apparently a
positive to 'her' LGBT+ credentials the fact that 'she' had not had
any medical
treatment!
Some countries such as Japan (since 2002) and Sweden (until 2013)
require an applicant requesting a legal change of sex to have been
sterilized (most commonly via an orchiectomy) or have completed sex-assignment surgery
before this is granted. There is a lot of well-argued
opposition to such rules, but
after many bad experiences I can also reluctantly see some merit in favour of
this. I've become worried that it has become too easy for a
man or even a teenage boy who is wondering if they are transgender to be quickly sucked in to
the system. Any man with $25,000 to spend can almost on an impulse catch a flight to Thailand and arrive back home two weeks later minus
his
testes and penis, but with breast implants and a neo-vagina.
Transwomen are often emerging from the process of changing their
gender much poorer, jobless, disowned by their family and friends, struggling
to pass as a woman, infertile, unable to sexually attract 'normal' men,
and suffering from mental and medical complications.
From my own experience I favour the rule in the now defunct versions 4
to 6 (published September 2001) of the Standards of Care for the Health of Transgender and Gender Diverse
People which recommended a yearlong real-life experience/test before a
surgeon can perform SRS/GCS.
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